i haven't been writing. this fact, as an isolated statement, doesn't mean much. but when taken in a larger context, when factoring in this site and my own creative writing, it is bad. bad. i have spent more time in the last 2 weeks writing documentation for an api than i have on my own thoughts.
i had decided this weekend that this was to stop. that i had plowed through enough of my own small projects and could easily dedicate 15 minutes a day to writing. and the assumption is that 15 will snowball into something larger.
one of these projects over the last weekend was dvd-ing more home videos. 9 of 13 done. but i woke up on sunday morning, climbed out of bed and took the most recently compressed video and marked chapters, setting it to export as a video_ts folder. and climbed back into bed.
as i was marking chapters, i was skimming the video. this dvd is footage from 'urban light works' in 2000. it has a lot of footage of yoffy, who i spent the day with setting up an installation. it has footage of kelly, who came out. it has footage of me, bald and silly.
but as i was scanning the footage, a face popped out. popped out from the past; i stopped breathing. i felt sick. lia was staring at me. lia is dead. lia has been dead now for almost 6 years. i feel sick typing this right now, sitting in a tullys in downtown san francisco, a life-time away from that day.
i went back to bed, staring at the ceiling, thinking about her. thinking about the murder. thinking about life. i felt sick. i thought i might actually throw up. i was completely and utterly ill-prepared to deal with seeing her on video sunday morning. i still am. i might never be able to watch that dvd, just knowing the pain it will cause my heart.
another dvd had been made last week. a silly one, of another vcu project. on it, i had found some footage that qualified as 'behind the scenes.' it was studio footage, a group shot of the entire class, with the instructor's voice coming from behind the camera.
patrick power.
sunday, after i came home from brunch, scant hours after the above story, i got an email. from meg. again, i was unprepared.
patrick died. i have no details; i immediately answered her email, but have not heard back from her. below is the email she sent out.
I am extremely sad to share with you all that my brother-in-law,
Patrick Donald William Power 2, passed away unexpectedly on October
16.
Loved by many - and at the beginning of a great life with his new
wife, Dawn Bennett, and his 5 month old son, Patrick Power 3 - this
man will be very much missed.
In lieu of flowers, his family is asking for donations for Patrick 3.
There are lots of legal and medical expenses that the family has
recently incured and ANY donation will be super appreciated.
Patrick's brother, Kevin, and I have set up this website as a place
for contributions:
http://www.forp3.com
I am sending this to many of Patrick's friends already, but please
forward to anyone who you think would appreciate hearing about the
news.
lea was a student at vcu. patrick was an instructor; he taught me 'intro to video.' he was amazingly kind and amazingly cool. i got updates every once in while through meg — i heard when he got married, i heard when he had a baby. and now this.
i hadn't seen him after my first year at vcu. once again, it feels like a life-time ago. and, in many ways, it has been. but my mind still cannot process this information; i had to read the email several times before i could even begin to believe that it could be talking about the person i knew.
i got a vhs dub of bjork tapes from him. i have silly videos from his class scattered around my harddrives. kelly got a nickname from him that still gets tossed around once in a while.
the guy was great.
there is a temptation on my end to ascribe some meaning to this; i believe it is natural. but i don't actually believe i can point at richmond or vcu or any aspect of this and place any meaning or blame. it isn't fair or good or even understandable that this has happened. but it has.
i hate that this is where my life is heading, what my age has earned me — the people i respect, the people i love, are slowly beginning to leave this plane. my heart goes out to his family. i am overcome; i cannot imagine their grief.
the world already misses you, mr power.
later:
i posted this yesterday; it is now midday tuesday.
there has been a flurry of emails and im's from people i knew from vcu. but there has also been a flurry of emails to me, from people who knew patrick through his time at vcu.
i invite any and all of you to post comments. i don't feel right posting your private emails to me; i hope that you can share your memories publicly to help everyone smile and remember this awesome man.
i didn't expect to be a conduit with all of this, but it's becoming clear that a lot of people have a lot of things they would like to say. please, please share them everyone. (but you can also feel free to email me with the button below the comment.)
just know that you aren't alone; the sorry and loss and confusion has been echoed by everyone i have spoken to. and our memories are big and large and more than any of us by ourselves.
(turns out cody has an excellent post on patrick as well.)
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